Thursday, November 21, 2019

Frazzeled Frustration

I try so hard😭😭😭😭. Okay, wait first let me back up a bit. Hello, it has been a while since I last posted due to some discoveries happening in the crazy household. We finally got an official diagnosis on one of the twins Zane what we have speculated for a while now. Zane has to be diagnosed on the autistic spectrum. Lately, things have just been....I don't know I think my brain has taken a vacation.

Zane has good days and bad days, and lately its been every day of the week almost. It is something or other with him. Hitting a classmate. Telling his teacher no he does not want to do his work. If it was not Zane it was then his twin Aidan and Aidan usually is good! Let me just give you a list of Zane's latest.

Loses Jacket Every Day
It's chilly out! How do you lose/forget your jacket! Zane has sensory issues he does not feel hot or cold like we do. One day we lost two jackets in a row! I never got that hoodie back either!

Solution: Like a GOOD mom I am I make Zane a little checklist to put by his cubby it was not just his jacket he would forget. His folder, his important papers Mommy NEEDED TO SEE. It worked but then he's now managed to somehow forget the backpack altogether(We believe he left it on the bus as the teacher says it is not in the classroom). At least he had his jacket on!

Pooped in the Bathtub
WHAAAAT! Zane you are 6 years old you can control your bowels what possessed you...not worth the fight...not worth the yelling. Please do not do that again sweetie we do not poo in the bathtub. It's gross you could get sick and your brother sick. We love you! And when we confronted him he started peeing. Dad asks Zane are you peeing in the tub. Zane goes, "No". WE SEE YOU ZANE!

Hitting
Zane never does this, but it is a first time for everything! From what I got he hit a girl cause he does not like girls. Zane told me the girl was strange and she was in his way and so he just pushed her aside. Gave a lecture on why we do not hit and to treat others as we would like to be treated. True not everyone is nice, but its best to be kind and love.

Meltdowns
Schools and bus drivers know Zane is autistic but that is it. They still think he is just misbehaving. I used to think so too. No, he is having an autistic sensory meltdown. He over stimulating. He does not know what is going on. He freaks out. The thing is they give us warning signs this is happening. Teacher thing Zane is just being disruptive. No lady he is warning you he is having issues! Made this aware at the beginning of the school year. Didn't take my advice much. 😠😠. We are working on Zane to articulate when he starts feeling this way. He has done so even a couple of times. There are soothing techniques that work with him. When he starts doing the annoying disruptive things let him have a decompression time. He is totally zen after and ready to focus. After recess, this should be done for him as well. He is majorly overstimulated at this point and its usually around lunch and recess time they have issues. UGH! I asked for a meeting to talk about Zane and all this. Tell them they do not have to have these issues they have with Zane. There are tips and he does give you warning signs. These meltdowns can be avoided mostly.

Zane


By the way, Yesterday was the school hitting and pooping in bathtub thing. Today was going to be a better day! Oh oops, I lost my backpack. *facepalm* I try so hard. 😭😭.  Love my Zanie though. Can't be frustrated for long with him. I just had to maniacal muse.